The past days I've been gradually restoring some but not all of my online contacts. I notice that it's relatively easy to push myself too far, resulting in an intense desire to withdraw and break off all and any contact.
I was supposed to receive a phone call from the Erasmus MC last Wednesday, but didn't. When I called the hospital yesterday they said that I'd be called today, which they did. I didn't get the doctor I had spoken to before, though. She's moving to another clinic, so I doubt I'll see her again. I explained my situation to the doctor who had called me and she told me to make an appointment with any doctor in that clinic relevant to my situation who I could then give the CD with MRI images to, which I did.
Next week Wednesday I've got an appointment with a Dr. Schipper. I'm relatively happy that I can see someone that soon. I hope that I can find someone to go with me to the hospital, though, for mental support. Pieter can't go with me this time due to his work and frankly I can't think of anyone else who I'd ask, but offers are welcome :)
If things go well, I should know with around 3 weeks from now what they've seen on the MRI images. If they see what Germany saw, then things should become interesting. Else...
At this moment I'm also buried underneath a huge pile of work, mostly paid. I've got a deadline this week which I'm struggling to make. This week I've wasted a lot of time being nervous, especially Wednesday, when I even collapsed completely when that phone call didn't come.
Ah well, back to work....
Maya
Friday, 27 June 2008
Saturday, 21 June 2008
I'll Leave If You Don't Want Me To Stay...
Yesterday I finally received the CD with MRI images. No MRI report from the second clinic, though, as in that case they'd have required me to pay for a full scan (hundreds of Euros). I can clearly see that this is the CD they used in Duisburg as it's been opened. Looking at the images on the CD it's clear that these are different images than on the first CD. On the first CD I could even see fat deposits near the tummy area, something which I don't have. Together with this letter I got two more from the first German clinic, two (identical) bills for the CD. I sent Privatescan an email to inquire about this, as I didn't realize I had to pay for it since they sent me the wrong CD to begin with.
Also received with these letters was one from the VUMC's complaint commission. In it they argued that what I propose for my physical configuration (both a penis and vagina) is impossible and is not found in the medical literature. Because the CD with MRI images I gave them (with the wrong images, naturally) didn't show the presence of female organs, they reject my complaint.
In it they do point out that the absence of a prostate can be clarified by atrophication. With me taking hormones, it is shrinking and becoming less dense. This would explain why on the ultrasound I had a few years ago they did see a prostate and now they don't.
So I'll get nothing back for the 2.5 years I've wasted fighting against psychologists. In their eyes I'm just a poor kid suffering from gender dysmorphia, who can not accept that he is subject to this and instead has conjured up ideas of being intersexual. I can honestly say that if next Wednesday's conversation with the doctor from the Erasmus MC doesn't produce any results, I'm just about ready to give up.
Here I am again... defending myself against what I see as injustice. No specialist has ever interested him or herself enough to actually look at me and perform some tests which matter. It was just me gathering evidence through whatever means I saw available to slowly assemble a likely answer to why my body is so odd. The frustration over the lack of recognition of this fact by medical specialists is producing an enormous amount of stress for me, and is the prime reason why I'm suffering from depressions and suicidal moods.
Two days ago a Dutch (female) friend I know via IRC suddenly started yelling at me and treating me like dirt. This was enough to decide to abandon online interactions as well. All I've got now is my work which is only for myself and this last attempt at getting my IS condition recognized.
In the end I'm alone... abandoned and undefined... yet another meaningless existence. Too much pain to keep living...
Maya
Also received with these letters was one from the VUMC's complaint commission. In it they argued that what I propose for my physical configuration (both a penis and vagina) is impossible and is not found in the medical literature. Because the CD with MRI images I gave them (with the wrong images, naturally) didn't show the presence of female organs, they reject my complaint.
In it they do point out that the absence of a prostate can be clarified by atrophication. With me taking hormones, it is shrinking and becoming less dense. This would explain why on the ultrasound I had a few years ago they did see a prostate and now they don't.
So I'll get nothing back for the 2.5 years I've wasted fighting against psychologists. In their eyes I'm just a poor kid suffering from gender dysmorphia, who can not accept that he is subject to this and instead has conjured up ideas of being intersexual. I can honestly say that if next Wednesday's conversation with the doctor from the Erasmus MC doesn't produce any results, I'm just about ready to give up.
Here I am again... defending myself against what I see as injustice. No specialist has ever interested him or herself enough to actually look at me and perform some tests which matter. It was just me gathering evidence through whatever means I saw available to slowly assemble a likely answer to why my body is so odd. The frustration over the lack of recognition of this fact by medical specialists is producing an enormous amount of stress for me, and is the prime reason why I'm suffering from depressions and suicidal moods.
Two days ago a Dutch (female) friend I know via IRC suddenly started yelling at me and treating me like dirt. This was enough to decide to abandon online interactions as well. All I've got now is my work which is only for myself and this last attempt at getting my IS condition recognized.
In the end I'm alone... abandoned and undefined... yet another meaningless existence. Too much pain to keep living...
Maya
Thursday, 19 June 2008
Welcome, Weirdness~
I got up at around 6 AM this morning, said goodbye to Pieter as he left for The Hague, where he had a talk with some politicians regarding copyright (he's speech person for a large open source movement here in The Netherlands). After that I did some work on this Open Source-related website until around 10 AM when I went back to bed and had one of the weirdest dreams ever.
In it pretty much every single trauma and anything else I find uncomfortable was represented. First there were relationships, with couples moving around inside this rather large house, which induced a severe feeling of distrust, jealousy and other negative feelings. I didn't seem to be really present, other than being a spectator, though it felt as though I did have a physical presence in the dream.
At one point I was sitting on a bed or couch with a few people, including a girl who was just like me and only had her upper body covered up. When someone passed by she covered up her genitals, and after the guy had left, she said something like "Got to keep it hidden from some to appear normal.".
During other scenes in the dream there was this weird 'porn' movie playing on a screen in a bedroom in which I was present together with a few others. I can't recall many details from that part... but it was a quite surreal scene. Definitely uncomfortable.
The dream ended with me having eaten some fruit or so and having to discard left-overs in the kitchen of the house, but being unable to find a waste basket, resulting in me searching over and over again while there were two people there as well. It made me feel embarrassed.
Waking up, I gradually got back to work again, until I got interrupted by a phone call. It was from the woman who lives at my old place in Rijssen now. She had received my letter and thus my phone number. She informed me that she had already called Privatescan and had received my address from them as well as sent the mail to me. I felt rather happy at this news.
I can definitely feel that I'm changing. Ever since I put in this imaginary divide, separating people like them (people who put their basic urges over intelligence) from people like me, I have been able to discard many of the things which used to bother me and really focus on my work. It's as though I have discarded a big part of me, a big, troubled part. Together with it I have seemingly given up on relations, even friendship and especially sexuality. They're things which belong to 'them' and not me. I intend to keep this up until I have certainty about the surgery, at which point I may lower this defense somewhat.
Maya
In it pretty much every single trauma and anything else I find uncomfortable was represented. First there were relationships, with couples moving around inside this rather large house, which induced a severe feeling of distrust, jealousy and other negative feelings. I didn't seem to be really present, other than being a spectator, though it felt as though I did have a physical presence in the dream.
At one point I was sitting on a bed or couch with a few people, including a girl who was just like me and only had her upper body covered up. When someone passed by she covered up her genitals, and after the guy had left, she said something like "Got to keep it hidden from some to appear normal.".
During other scenes in the dream there was this weird 'porn' movie playing on a screen in a bedroom in which I was present together with a few others. I can't recall many details from that part... but it was a quite surreal scene. Definitely uncomfortable.
The dream ended with me having eaten some fruit or so and having to discard left-overs in the kitchen of the house, but being unable to find a waste basket, resulting in me searching over and over again while there were two people there as well. It made me feel embarrassed.
Waking up, I gradually got back to work again, until I got interrupted by a phone call. It was from the woman who lives at my old place in Rijssen now. She had received my letter and thus my phone number. She informed me that she had already called Privatescan and had received my address from them as well as sent the mail to me. I felt rather happy at this news.
I can definitely feel that I'm changing. Ever since I put in this imaginary divide, separating people like them (people who put their basic urges over intelligence) from people like me, I have been able to discard many of the things which used to bother me and really focus on my work. It's as though I have discarded a big part of me, a big, troubled part. Together with it I have seemingly given up on relations, even friendship and especially sexuality. They're things which belong to 'them' and not me. I intend to keep this up until I have certainty about the surgery, at which point I may lower this defense somewhat.
Maya
Tuesday, 17 June 2008
The Waiting Game
This morning and afternoon were a tad too exciting for me. First there was the excitement over Privatescan informing me that they had mailed me the CD with MRI images as well as the MRI report. To my old address. I happen to know the people who live there now, fortunately, and they know me, so I wrote them a letter informing them that they should send any mail addressed to me to my new address.
Now I called my mother today as well, and she told me that if those people were to send mail to her old address (since she's now staying in France), it'd end up at my aunt's place. Hopefully I'll get this thing settled this week. Privatescan can't help me any further according to them, so if I don't get this package I'm screwed.
The thing is that I made an appointment with the same physician as before at the Erasmus MC. She'll call me next week Wednesday during which talk we'll discuss how to proceed. If they're still willing to help me, of course, seeing as how I got kicked out before. God, I'd like some certainty here...
Today I've actually managed to work quite a bit. The past days I've spent largely on messing around with old computers (a friend gave some old PII, PIII and P4 systems which I intend to use for a cluster for AI research). I've also been programming a number of websites, one the community site (promised to have it done like a month ago now :P ) and another one is a project site for a project I've started based on ReactOS, an Open Source Windows clone. I'll update you guys as soon as I've got this site up. And the community site, of course.
I'm going to bed now seeing as I've managed to go to bed past midnight the past days which hasn't been a good thing for me. So yeah, good night~
Maya
Now I called my mother today as well, and she told me that if those people were to send mail to her old address (since she's now staying in France), it'd end up at my aunt's place. Hopefully I'll get this thing settled this week. Privatescan can't help me any further according to them, so if I don't get this package I'm screwed.
The thing is that I made an appointment with the same physician as before at the Erasmus MC. She'll call me next week Wednesday during which talk we'll discuss how to proceed. If they're still willing to help me, of course, seeing as how I got kicked out before. God, I'd like some certainty here...
Today I've actually managed to work quite a bit. The past days I've spent largely on messing around with old computers (a friend gave some old PII, PIII and P4 systems which I intend to use for a cluster for AI research). I've also been programming a number of websites, one the community site (promised to have it done like a month ago now :P ) and another one is a project site for a project I've started based on ReactOS, an Open Source Windows clone. I'll update you guys as soon as I've got this site up. And the community site, of course.
I'm going to bed now seeing as I've managed to go to bed past midnight the past days which hasn't been a good thing for me. So yeah, good night~
Maya
Saturday, 14 June 2008
Whatever...
Yesterday I first went to my appointment with my physician, who I informed of the news from Germany. She agreed that I should go back to the Erasmus MC as soon as I had received the CD with MRI images and the report. Fun how this just reinforces the fact that I'm still trying to convince medical specialists here, while in a sane world they'd be the ones helping me from the start. This still makes me feel so angry and depressed simultaneously.
My physician also had the hormone values from the blood test a few weeks ago. All levels were normal, aside from prolactin, which was elevated. She mentioned prolactin possibly being elevated due to my body fighting against the hormones I'm taking, or just from stress. Perhaps I should do more research in the medical literature, but I haven't found anything which says anything about the former. Prolactin seems to be a far more benign hormone, even: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prolactin . Stress seems to be the best reason anyway, considering my prolactin levels have never been tested before, and I've been under severe emotional stress for the past years. At any rate I have to get another blood test with about a week, and also schedule an appointment with an endocrinologist.
We also discussed why it seems as though this whole IS issue seems to be an obsession for me, a fact which I think can be explained by that I have lived withdrawn into myself for 15+ years, only really came out of it last year, and lack any kind of real life social and other skills. Having to learn those things confronts me constantly with the fact that I'm IS and thus different and sometimes even handicapped. This has resulted in many traumas embedding themselves into me.
A reminder of this being different was when after my physician appointment I went to make an appointment with my dentist. The assistant there asked me to fill in a form since this was my first appointment there, which resulted in the usual questions from my side about my name (legal and unofficial) and the use of hormones (an issue or not). This led her to think that maybe I was a transsexual or so, which made it necessary for her to explain my situation. She had seen the Oprah Winfrey show earlier this week on TV, so she was somewhat informed. God, I hate transsexuals...
Anyway, otherwise the conversation with this assistant was rather nice. She seemed to be an open and honest person. I felt quite good about the whole experience when I returned home, where shortly after I took another 2-hour 'nap'. That night there'd be a movie night after all, and I needed to be awake for it.
The movie night was organized by Alex, at his house in Almere. There were about 15 people total who arrived and left and some stayed in the time I was there. Of the people who stayed there were three girls and 5-6 men, including Pieter. It was a rather nice experience, watching bad movies and laughing at/commenting on them, until later that night.
While I was sitting on a couch with two of the girls, one of the guys felt the need to sit next to one of them and flirt with her, even putting his arm around her. It's hard to describe the feelings of disgust and wrongness which I felt rise up from my stomach at that point. Later when the three of them (the guy and the two girls) were sitting there discussing miscarriages and pregnancy in general I tried not to listen at first, but was about to yell at them to shut up when the movie fortunately interrupted their talk. This was the final straw, however, as my traumas had been fully triggered by now.
Suppressing my traumas taking so much mental strength, I was completely drained at that time at around 1.30 AM and when Pieter asked me whether we should go home (he had been on a round trip to Italy for his work on Thursday and still tired from it), I readily agreed. Muttering some apologies to the girl sitting next to me and telling her to ask Alex for the reasons behind my strange behaviour I left the place with Pieter.
On the way home in Pieter's car I felt horribly empty aside from this raging pain and depression deep inside me. I realized a few things, though, one of them being that the reason why this guy doing that made me feel so horrible was because he isn't a 'friend'. Guys to me can be two things in varying degrees: a guy and a friend. Guys I don't know or only slightly are primarily guys and are giving a chance to become friends, many failing this chance. For this reason Pieter is primarily a friend and thus I can trust him until he starts to behave more like a guy. This guy however is primarily a guy and a guy flirting with a girl is a bad, bad, evil and sinful thing. Why I think this latter I don't know, but I'm fairly sure it's deeply embedded and complex. Sorry, person who sent me an email telling me to just let go of certain traumas including this one. It ain't happening that easily.
When Pieter and I were nearly home, I began to cry softly, which he noticed after we had arrived and he comforted me for a while until I felt somewhat better. After that I stumbled inside and towards my room since I had developed a splitting headache. After taking some painkillers I went to bed.
Waking up today I felt exhausted, empty, tortured. Only obligation today is grocery shopping. I wonder if I should remove the remainders of the makeup I put on yesterday, as the black under my eyes feels somehow appropriate in describing my mood. I feel worn thin, exhausted and yes, stressed. Yesterday was a forceful reminder of why I am incapable of interacting with others outside my work. It's just like how before last year I wouldn't even try to interact with others in any non-professional manner, leaving my emotions completely out of the equation and rendering things like sexuality and relations (and of course friendship) completely irrelevant. At times like this I long back to that situation...
Maya
My physician also had the hormone values from the blood test a few weeks ago. All levels were normal, aside from prolactin, which was elevated. She mentioned prolactin possibly being elevated due to my body fighting against the hormones I'm taking, or just from stress. Perhaps I should do more research in the medical literature, but I haven't found anything which says anything about the former. Prolactin seems to be a far more benign hormone, even: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prolactin . Stress seems to be the best reason anyway, considering my prolactin levels have never been tested before, and I've been under severe emotional stress for the past years. At any rate I have to get another blood test with about a week, and also schedule an appointment with an endocrinologist.
We also discussed why it seems as though this whole IS issue seems to be an obsession for me, a fact which I think can be explained by that I have lived withdrawn into myself for 15+ years, only really came out of it last year, and lack any kind of real life social and other skills. Having to learn those things confronts me constantly with the fact that I'm IS and thus different and sometimes even handicapped. This has resulted in many traumas embedding themselves into me.
A reminder of this being different was when after my physician appointment I went to make an appointment with my dentist. The assistant there asked me to fill in a form since this was my first appointment there, which resulted in the usual questions from my side about my name (legal and unofficial) and the use of hormones (an issue or not). This led her to think that maybe I was a transsexual or so, which made it necessary for her to explain my situation. She had seen the Oprah Winfrey show earlier this week on TV, so she was somewhat informed. God, I hate transsexuals...
Anyway, otherwise the conversation with this assistant was rather nice. She seemed to be an open and honest person. I felt quite good about the whole experience when I returned home, where shortly after I took another 2-hour 'nap'. That night there'd be a movie night after all, and I needed to be awake for it.
The movie night was organized by Alex, at his house in Almere. There were about 15 people total who arrived and left and some stayed in the time I was there. Of the people who stayed there were three girls and 5-6 men, including Pieter. It was a rather nice experience, watching bad movies and laughing at/commenting on them, until later that night.
While I was sitting on a couch with two of the girls, one of the guys felt the need to sit next to one of them and flirt with her, even putting his arm around her. It's hard to describe the feelings of disgust and wrongness which I felt rise up from my stomach at that point. Later when the three of them (the guy and the two girls) were sitting there discussing miscarriages and pregnancy in general I tried not to listen at first, but was about to yell at them to shut up when the movie fortunately interrupted their talk. This was the final straw, however, as my traumas had been fully triggered by now.
Suppressing my traumas taking so much mental strength, I was completely drained at that time at around 1.30 AM and when Pieter asked me whether we should go home (he had been on a round trip to Italy for his work on Thursday and still tired from it), I readily agreed. Muttering some apologies to the girl sitting next to me and telling her to ask Alex for the reasons behind my strange behaviour I left the place with Pieter.
On the way home in Pieter's car I felt horribly empty aside from this raging pain and depression deep inside me. I realized a few things, though, one of them being that the reason why this guy doing that made me feel so horrible was because he isn't a 'friend'. Guys to me can be two things in varying degrees: a guy and a friend. Guys I don't know or only slightly are primarily guys and are giving a chance to become friends, many failing this chance. For this reason Pieter is primarily a friend and thus I can trust him until he starts to behave more like a guy. This guy however is primarily a guy and a guy flirting with a girl is a bad, bad, evil and sinful thing. Why I think this latter I don't know, but I'm fairly sure it's deeply embedded and complex. Sorry, person who sent me an email telling me to just let go of certain traumas including this one. It ain't happening that easily.
When Pieter and I were nearly home, I began to cry softly, which he noticed after we had arrived and he comforted me for a while until I felt somewhat better. After that I stumbled inside and towards my room since I had developed a splitting headache. After taking some painkillers I went to bed.
Waking up today I felt exhausted, empty, tortured. Only obligation today is grocery shopping. I wonder if I should remove the remainders of the makeup I put on yesterday, as the black under my eyes feels somehow appropriate in describing my mood. I feel worn thin, exhausted and yes, stressed. Yesterday was a forceful reminder of why I am incapable of interacting with others outside my work. It's just like how before last year I wouldn't even try to interact with others in any non-professional manner, leaving my emotions completely out of the equation and rendering things like sexuality and relations (and of course friendship) completely irrelevant. At times like this I long back to that situation...
Maya
Thursday, 12 June 2008
Back To Depression...
I should have seen this one coming... Today I've been feeling depressed and miserably all day. The reason? First of all there's the realization that right now I'm at the exact same spot where I was at the end of last year, after the MRI scan, nearly half a year ago. Then there's getting the surgery which, even if it ever happens, will probably take many months yet again. The resulting feeling of intense bitterness makes me just want to jump off a tall building or plunge something sharp into my tummy until I bleed to death. Any pain is better than this emotional distress I'm in.
Tomorrow I've got an appointment with my physician... I'll talk things over with her... she'll probably tell me to get back into contact with the Erasmus MC, who'll be slow as usual, even after screwing up the first time. There's no love in this world... just periods of calm weather in-between intense pain. Don't let me do this all on my own, please...
Odd, isn't it? Everyone expected me to cheer up after getting the confirmation on the first MRI report, but now I'm at least as depressed and suicidal as I was before, just with a slightly different focus. It just means that my life is hell and will never turn out fine. I can see no bright light in the distance, no hope, nothing to celebrate. Just more struggling and pain.
Perhaps I really should just end it all tonight...
Maya
Tomorrow I've got an appointment with my physician... I'll talk things over with her... she'll probably tell me to get back into contact with the Erasmus MC, who'll be slow as usual, even after screwing up the first time. There's no love in this world... just periods of calm weather in-between intense pain. Don't let me do this all on my own, please...
Odd, isn't it? Everyone expected me to cheer up after getting the confirmation on the first MRI report, but now I'm at least as depressed and suicidal as I was before, just with a slightly different focus. It just means that my life is hell and will never turn out fine. I can see no bright light in the distance, no hope, nothing to celebrate. Just more struggling and pain.
Perhaps I really should just end it all tonight...
Maya
Wednesday, 11 June 2008
Let's See, What's Next?
Well, to make a long story short, today I got the results back from the German clinic. I spent nearly the entire day just lying in my bed, sleeping and reading while waiting for Pieter to return from his work before opening the email, even skipping dinner and such. I felt incredibly dizzy, nauseous and everything when I got the email.
Then Pieter returned home and the first thing I did while he was with me was to read the email from Privatescan. In it the first German report, the one which had confirmed my IS condition for the very first time, was reconfirmed on all points. No womb or prostate, but a vagina, penis and testicles present. I felt incredibly relieved at reading this news, crying happy tears for a while after reading.
After dinner I also looked at the CD with MRI images I had received at the first German clinic and from what I could tell (having seen the images at the clinic), these were different images. I could indeed not see the vagina and such on it. Apparently I did get the wrong images. Definitely a bitter-sweet feeling.
Now I just need to get a copy of this second MRI report as well as a copy of the MRI images. I'll see whether I can revitalize the complaint procedure at the VUMC, and I should probably go back to the Erasmus MC with this new material. I still want to get the actual surgery in Germany, though. If only because it shaves off weeks if not months before I can go in. This means haggling with my insurance company, which should be fine if I can get support from a specialist here in the Netherlands.
Tomorrow I'm going to make an appointment with my physician to discuss matters with her, I also need to make an appointment with my dentist for a routine check, and there's the totally fun and joyful hair removal treatment. Luckily this time it's only my face and not face and lower region in one go like last time. That was a totally excruciating experience I would not care to repeat. Suffice it to say that I'm not going through this hair removal thing because it's so pleasant :P
Work? I'll get back to it starting tomorrow, but today has been yet another wasted day. At least most of my worries seem to have vanished now, if only for the moment, and my traumas reduced in severity. I'll see how things go tomorrow. There's still a big list of things to take care of, so at least I won't get bored.
It's time for some sleep now...
Maya
Then Pieter returned home and the first thing I did while he was with me was to read the email from Privatescan. In it the first German report, the one which had confirmed my IS condition for the very first time, was reconfirmed on all points. No womb or prostate, but a vagina, penis and testicles present. I felt incredibly relieved at reading this news, crying happy tears for a while after reading.
After dinner I also looked at the CD with MRI images I had received at the first German clinic and from what I could tell (having seen the images at the clinic), these were different images. I could indeed not see the vagina and such on it. Apparently I did get the wrong images. Definitely a bitter-sweet feeling.
Now I just need to get a copy of this second MRI report as well as a copy of the MRI images. I'll see whether I can revitalize the complaint procedure at the VUMC, and I should probably go back to the Erasmus MC with this new material. I still want to get the actual surgery in Germany, though. If only because it shaves off weeks if not months before I can go in. This means haggling with my insurance company, which should be fine if I can get support from a specialist here in the Netherlands.
Tomorrow I'm going to make an appointment with my physician to discuss matters with her, I also need to make an appointment with my dentist for a routine check, and there's the totally fun and joyful hair removal treatment. Luckily this time it's only my face and not face and lower region in one go like last time. That was a totally excruciating experience I would not care to repeat. Suffice it to say that I'm not going through this hair removal thing because it's so pleasant :P
Work? I'll get back to it starting tomorrow, but today has been yet another wasted day. At least most of my worries seem to have vanished now, if only for the moment, and my traumas reduced in severity. I'll see how things go tomorrow. There's still a big list of things to take care of, so at least I won't get bored.
It's time for some sleep now...
Maya
Sunday, 8 June 2008
More Changes...
Yup, it's yet another totally generic and non-descriptive blog post title~ don't you just love them? :) Sorry for the overload of sarcasm and other joyful exclamations in this post. The past two days I've slept around 11 hours each and yet I'm feeling totally exhausted right now. Amazing isn't it? You could just scrape me off my chair and put me to bed without a struggle.
Talking about scraping off... the weather these past days has been gruesome. You know it's warm when you have to literally pry yourself off your chair's seat and cringe in pain because your underwear has decided to merge with your skin. Lots of fun. The melted chocolate is a horrible thing too. Going outside? Are you crazy, the sun burnsss usss~ @_@
So I finally got the long-expected money from Norway. Not a moment too soon. I finally got to pay Pieter for my stay at his place plus some other debts, and I've got money for the hair-removal treatment on Wednesday. I should get a new web development job next week for a Dutch travel company as well. I hope it works out.
Also next week... the reply from the German clinic about the MRI scan images. If it's a positive result I get to wrestle with my insurance company, if it's negative I'll have to get another scan to make sure nothing got messed up in the mess which accompanied the current images (Privatescan no longer works with the clinic where they were made and such). I think it's ridiculous that I get an initial positive MRI report and then only negative ones based on supposedly the same images. Talking about things which drive one to just give up...
Anyway, earlier today I sent some emails to national public TV channels, to see whether they're interested in my story, with a focus on the terrible Dutch 'health care' system and the lack of knowledge and understanding regarding intersexual people. I hope I get some positive responses from them. Else there are the commercial channels to try as well.
I'm still working on the community site... it's taking me a lot longer than expected, mostly because my sensitivity regarding things which trigger my traumas has become a lot lower. It's getting so bad now that someone just has to mention something related to sexuality or relationships and there's a good chance it'll knock me out for an hour at least. At this rate I'm not getting more than 1-2 hours of work done every day.
Perhaps I should just cut myself off from all non-essential communications...
Maya
Talking about scraping off... the weather these past days has been gruesome. You know it's warm when you have to literally pry yourself off your chair's seat and cringe in pain because your underwear has decided to merge with your skin. Lots of fun. The melted chocolate is a horrible thing too. Going outside? Are you crazy, the sun burnsss usss~ @_@
So I finally got the long-expected money from Norway. Not a moment too soon. I finally got to pay Pieter for my stay at his place plus some other debts, and I've got money for the hair-removal treatment on Wednesday. I should get a new web development job next week for a Dutch travel company as well. I hope it works out.
Also next week... the reply from the German clinic about the MRI scan images. If it's a positive result I get to wrestle with my insurance company, if it's negative I'll have to get another scan to make sure nothing got messed up in the mess which accompanied the current images (Privatescan no longer works with the clinic where they were made and such). I think it's ridiculous that I get an initial positive MRI report and then only negative ones based on supposedly the same images. Talking about things which drive one to just give up...
Anyway, earlier today I sent some emails to national public TV channels, to see whether they're interested in my story, with a focus on the terrible Dutch 'health care' system and the lack of knowledge and understanding regarding intersexual people. I hope I get some positive responses from them. Else there are the commercial channels to try as well.
I'm still working on the community site... it's taking me a lot longer than expected, mostly because my sensitivity regarding things which trigger my traumas has become a lot lower. It's getting so bad now that someone just has to mention something related to sexuality or relationships and there's a good chance it'll knock me out for an hour at least. At this rate I'm not getting more than 1-2 hours of work done every day.
Perhaps I should just cut myself off from all non-essential communications...
Maya
Monday, 2 June 2008
Fear...
Today my day started off bad before I even woke up. For the first time ever I got my trauma's triggered while dreaming when a person in the dream mentioned his sex life. It was interesting to feel myself slide off into a depression and run off to find a quiet place while dreaming. Less pleasant was that when I woke up I felt absolutely incredibly depressed, and I mean about on the same level as last Wednesday.
It took me hours to get back to a level where I didn't feel like just stabbing myself through the chest with something sharp or otherwise kill myself. It was the most difficult way to wake up, making a hangover seem like a funny joke, and a definite first for me. Seemingly even in my dreams I'm no longer safe from the suffering and pain real life presents to me. I'm absolutely thrilled to learn this. Seriously.
Today, if everything went right, the MRI images were taken from the first German clinic to the Duisburg one, where they'll start examining them on Tuesday. I feel as though far too much depends on the outcome of their report. If they confirm the previous result, what awaits me is a fight to get my insurer to let me receive treatment in Germany. However, if they do not confirm it, I'm not even sure what I'll do. The least lethal and painful option is probably to lose myself in the por... I mean, adult entertainment industry, where my body would at least have some kind of use and who knows someone will actually look at me to turn me into a full semi-hermaphrodite to maximise my potential and profitability.
I mean, what in the world am I supposed to do if Germany doesn't confirm the first MRI scan report? Get another MRI scan? I don't even have the money for it so unless I get a free one from Privatescan that'd be a dead-end. Here in the Netherlands I can get no specialist to look at me, except perhaps a urologist, who'd probably tell me that all that I think is wrong with me is just in my mind or so. I so bloody hate this stupid, retarded body which has put me through so much hardship and suffering. At this rate I don't even want to look at it, feel it or anything. I'm through with it.
I was going to write something here about physical activity being good against depressions and me getting Wii Fit and going swimming more often because of it, but reading back the above lines I think that I have already made my point. That or I have snapped already and am beyond help.
Forget happiness. It's as real as the gold at the end of the rainbow.
Maya
It took me hours to get back to a level where I didn't feel like just stabbing myself through the chest with something sharp or otherwise kill myself. It was the most difficult way to wake up, making a hangover seem like a funny joke, and a definite first for me. Seemingly even in my dreams I'm no longer safe from the suffering and pain real life presents to me. I'm absolutely thrilled to learn this. Seriously.
Today, if everything went right, the MRI images were taken from the first German clinic to the Duisburg one, where they'll start examining them on Tuesday. I feel as though far too much depends on the outcome of their report. If they confirm the previous result, what awaits me is a fight to get my insurer to let me receive treatment in Germany. However, if they do not confirm it, I'm not even sure what I'll do. The least lethal and painful option is probably to lose myself in the por... I mean, adult entertainment industry, where my body would at least have some kind of use and who knows someone will actually look at me to turn me into a full semi-hermaphrodite to maximise my potential and profitability.
I mean, what in the world am I supposed to do if Germany doesn't confirm the first MRI scan report? Get another MRI scan? I don't even have the money for it so unless I get a free one from Privatescan that'd be a dead-end. Here in the Netherlands I can get no specialist to look at me, except perhaps a urologist, who'd probably tell me that all that I think is wrong with me is just in my mind or so. I so bloody hate this stupid, retarded body which has put me through so much hardship and suffering. At this rate I don't even want to look at it, feel it or anything. I'm through with it.
I was going to write something here about physical activity being good against depressions and me getting Wii Fit and going swimming more often because of it, but reading back the above lines I think that I have already made my point. That or I have snapped already and am beyond help.
Forget happiness. It's as real as the gold at the end of the rainbow.
Maya
Sunday, 1 June 2008
Gone...
Bleak shadows pass me by as I sit on this black, cold rock.
Its cold draining the last remains of warmth my body
Desperately tries to hang on to, my life force fading.
Surrounding me a place beyond even the shimmering twilight,
Lit by a ghastly moon, dark shapes within a pale, deserted world.
How long have I been sitting here? I don't know... I don't
Remember how everything ended up like this, if it even ever
Started, since in this world of Shadows there is no time.
Nothing in here touches me or can be touched. Everything is
Distant, like a lost memory, fading beyond recollection.
A shadow moves closer... as though inspecting what I presume
Is my body. Its featureless presence evoking no emotions.
A sudden presence invading my thoughts, piercing through
Like a knife through soft flesh, my defenses useless.
The upwelling of intense pain, emotional chaos inflamed.
Falling towards the ground, I add my voice of agony to
The eternal choir of the damned which pervades this place.
As numbing darkness envelopes me, the eternal pain finally
Departs from my body and soul, leaving me in blissful peace.
As conscious thought terminates, I wish for this to be the end.
Ghastly, distorted shadows surround me as I lie writhing in
Agony in this twisted world, to which I regret to have awoken.
I can hear their laughing, their talking and ridiculing, yet I
Do not know who they are or grasp their disgust with me.
Their words forming daggers which pierce and destroy.
To my horror I see my body pierced by actual daggers,
Ripping apart my flesh, my organs, as my life flows out of me.
Incited to the ultimate blood lust, moving closer, their distorted
Jaws opening to reveal new levels of horror before sinking
Into my flesh to devour and feed upon those who are weak.
Opening my eyes once more I find myself sitting yet again
On the black, cold rock., its piercing cold like the daggers
I remember... yet on my body no traces are visible to the eye.
Closing my eyes to find that blissful darkness again, I find
Eternal agony and suffering, without purpose or goal. Forever.
Maya
Its cold draining the last remains of warmth my body
Desperately tries to hang on to, my life force fading.
Surrounding me a place beyond even the shimmering twilight,
Lit by a ghastly moon, dark shapes within a pale, deserted world.
How long have I been sitting here? I don't know... I don't
Remember how everything ended up like this, if it even ever
Started, since in this world of Shadows there is no time.
Nothing in here touches me or can be touched. Everything is
Distant, like a lost memory, fading beyond recollection.
A shadow moves closer... as though inspecting what I presume
Is my body. Its featureless presence evoking no emotions.
A sudden presence invading my thoughts, piercing through
Like a knife through soft flesh, my defenses useless.
The upwelling of intense pain, emotional chaos inflamed.
Falling towards the ground, I add my voice of agony to
The eternal choir of the damned which pervades this place.
As numbing darkness envelopes me, the eternal pain finally
Departs from my body and soul, leaving me in blissful peace.
As conscious thought terminates, I wish for this to be the end.
Ghastly, distorted shadows surround me as I lie writhing in
Agony in this twisted world, to which I regret to have awoken.
I can hear their laughing, their talking and ridiculing, yet I
Do not know who they are or grasp their disgust with me.
Their words forming daggers which pierce and destroy.
To my horror I see my body pierced by actual daggers,
Ripping apart my flesh, my organs, as my life flows out of me.
Incited to the ultimate blood lust, moving closer, their distorted
Jaws opening to reveal new levels of horror before sinking
Into my flesh to devour and feed upon those who are weak.
Opening my eyes once more I find myself sitting yet again
On the black, cold rock., its piercing cold like the daggers
I remember... yet on my body no traces are visible to the eye.
Closing my eyes to find that blissful darkness again, I find
Eternal agony and suffering, without purpose or goal. Forever.
Maya
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